“This world is a better place without her.”
It’s about the worst thing someone can say about you after fatality and the reason Kathleen Dehmlow’s obituary started viral this week.
People don’t usually look through the somber newspaper section expecting to see such hardcore tint, so the Internet moved wild after someone shared the brief obit from Monday’s Redwood Falls Gazette on Twitter.
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Paragraph 2: ok
Paragraph 3: wait
Paragraph 4: OH
Paragraph 5:* aircraft wings overhead with a flag reading WELCOME TO HELL MOM* pic.twitter.com/ ppV4 5htrda
— Stu (@ RandBallsStu) June 5, 2018
Yeah, that definitely get dark.
So what’s the tale behind it ??
DailyMail.com tracked down one of the “abandoned children” to whom the post refers, 58 -year-old Army vet and adjourned boxer Jay Dehmalo.
Jay clarified this provided him and his elder sister Gina some catharsis after many decades without a father:
“You can’t believe the dysfunction of their own families. They’ll never know what we went through but it helped us[ to write this ]. We wanted to finally get the last word.”
He supposed posting the obit was Gina’s idea; when she’d heard their father was on her deathbed rather than last-minute forgiveness, she looked for a recent photo to submit to the paper together with her “last word.”
The post was refused by the first article they tried and later eliminated from the Redwood Falls Gazette website after ailments( though of course it still exists in publication ).
According to Dehmalo, the kids’ grandparents eventually took them in after Kathleen abandoned them and their father-god was unfit to develop them. Cousin Lyle Schunk substantiated 😛 TAGEND
“They took them in because Kathleen was obviously an unfit mother or something. Kathleen expressed the wish to booze as well, she liked to party as well.”
The hardship of their childhood, which he tells “people wouldn’t belief, ” obviously did abiding damage. Dehmalo says they were “bad kids”; his sister has been convicted twice of family violence charges.
Meanwhile, he replies their father was “off having a great life in California with her other kids” — two half-brothers he and Gina found out about years later.
Kathleen’s living sister Judy called the obit “nasty” and said it “hurt the family tremendously” — she considered the dark chapter should have been left out:
“Why do people want to talk about it? It’s not important.”
Two kids aren’t important? Hmm.
Definitely seems too harsh for the purposes of an obit, but without all the sides and with so little detail we won’t supply the “judgement” Kathleen will face — but we will say this 😛 TAGEND
Remember this obit the next time you burn bridges. Because you don’t get to write your tale; the survivors do.
What do YOU think of these children getting “the last word” on their mom ??